Disclaimer: This is a bit of a ramble to myself about something that has happened to me recently that I don’t wish to share exactly, but that I want to express some thoughts about. Bear with me, and take it all with a pinch of salt!
Everyone knows that life is a bit of a bitch. While it has its up moments, it also loves to throw crap at you every now and again, and there ain’t nothin’ you can do about it.
Some of these crappy moments aren’t a surprise. Some of them, you know are going to hit you. You might know a week in advance, a month in advance, even a year in advance, but that doesn’t make it any easier when it comes around.
Some people develop good coping mechanisms for dealing with these inevitable happenings – positivity goes a long way! On the other hand, some people take the route of completely ignoring the future occurrence. Some people take each day as it comes, opting to just deal with it when it happens. A combination of approaches is normal, at least it is for me. Ignoring it for a while, then moving one day at a time, and then acceptance means I try to have a positive outlook on the situation. Enjoy what time you have before you’re dropped in the shit and then have to spend your time cleaning up and picking yourself back up again.
One thing I’m learning at the moment is that time is fleeting. It flies before the inevitable bad thing, and it flies after it. After time, things sort themselves out, and if you can have a moment in the future to focus your attentions on time will move even more quickly, and it will be much easier to move past whatever happened that you couldn’t control.
It does nothing to dwell on the past and the “I wish could haves” and the “if onlys”. The past is the past, something you can’t change, but your future is malleable, and moulding it into something you want to happen gives you focus. It’s something to make you hopeful, excited, and keeps you up and happy. But remember to live in the present – make your time now just as exciting and pleasant as the future you’re waiting for.
There will always be things you can’t change, sucky things that you will dread the arrival of. It’s ok to be sad or angry about these things for a little while, but sooner or later life will pick up again and you will move past it. Stay positive, and forward-thinking. Live in the now, but keep yourself driven for that future plan you’re working towards.